Think like a horse

If you were a horse your happiest moments would be secure, unchanging and in a herd. 
They are prey animals, as oposed to predators like us (even vegetarians!).  Their survival depends on following the herd leader with unquestioning obedience.  In nature, if the herd leader says, "Run!" they must do so immediately or the consequence might be death.
Our domesticated horses are not evolutionarily far from this sentiment.  That's what makes them trainable.  The desire to obey and be "with us".  When we ride, we are a herd of two and it is imperative that the rider is the herd leader.  Otherwise, our mount loses confidence which can produce undesirable behavior in many forms.
Think like a horse and take charge (with kindness of course!)

Lemony's Nicket

While I was in Verden, Germany for the World Champion Young Horse competition, I saw the Hanoverian year old stallions compete as well.  The classes were run like the US Materiale with three horses going at once.  My very favorite, and the winner by the way, was the young stallion, Lemony's Nicket.  He's a beautiful bay by Londonderry out of a Weltmeyer mare.
Well . . . I must have great taste because I've just read that he sold for 900,000 Euro at the Verden auction to none other than Harmony Sport Horses of the US.
He will apparently stay in Germany for now.  Look for great things from this handsome young man!  I have a special feeling about him.